First Date Topics That Will Help You Get The Girl!
For most guys, the first date with a girl is a fairly stressful experience, and of the reasons is that they aren’t sure what to talk about on a first date. Before I share with you some first date ice breakers and first date topics that you can use to spark conversations, I want to make sure you’re heading into this date with the correct ATTITUDE. If you’re worried about how to get a girl to like you, this is information you absolutely need to have.
You see, the average guy views this first date as his chance to try to impress the girl. He’s hoping to convince her that he’s worthy of seeing her again. Basically, this date is like an “audition,” and he’s trying to win the role of her next boyfriend. But if you’ve been on quite a few first dates with girls, you’ve probably learned some harsh lessons — namely, that when you play this type of role, and give the girl the sense that you’re trying to win her approval, you usually don’t make much progress. The first date might seem to go pretty well, but then you might not get a second date. (When you call her to try to arrange a follow-up date, she suddenly tells you how busy she is, and things fizzle out and go nowhere.)
This is why on this first date it’s essential for you to know A) what to talk about with the girl, and B) how to “frame” the conversation so that she wants to earn YOUR approval! In a sense, you’re going to “turn the tables” and maintain an element of mystery, while asking questions, making observations, and playfully “teasing” her so that she sees you as a dynamic, confident guy who has plenty of other options. You’re not trying to impress her. That should never be your goal when you’re wondering what to talk about on a first date. Instead, you should “control” the conversation so that all of the topics allow you to plant positive seeds in her mind about the type of guy you are.
First Date Ice Breakers
Rule #1 is that you should allow her to do most of the talking. Ask the right questions that will prompt her to open up and share about herself. Get her to talk about:
- Where she sees herself five years from now. Is her current job fulfilling to her, or does she have other plans and ambitions for herself? If she reveals that she’s working towards other things, express how you appreciate her goals, and then this gives you the chance to mention the things YOU are working on, and the ways in which you are improving yourself.
- Does she have any “hidden talents?” A lot of girls have interests and talents that you wouldn’t suspect. Maybe she enjoys writing, or blogging, or has an artistic side that she wishes she had more time to develop. Get her to talk about this side of her. These are things that she probably doesn’t reveal to most guys, and these types of first date topics will allow you to “bond” with her.
- On first dates, I like to tell a quick story about a friend of mine who is involved in some type of “relationship drama” and then I ask the girl for her opinion. These are cool first date ice breakers because women ALWAYS have opinions of these subjects. For example, I might say to her…
“Let me get your opinion on something. My friend Jennifer has been dating this guy for about a month, and as far as she’s concerned, they’re boyfriend and girlfriend now, even though they haven’t had that discussion. Well, she was looking at his Facebook profile yesterday and she noticed that his ‘relationship status’ still says ‘single.” And she’s wondering if she should say something to him about this, because she already changed HER status to ‘in a relationship.’ But she’s worried that if she says something, it might make him feel like she’s pressuring him. I figure if you’ve been dating someone for a month, you ought to change your Facebook status…but what’s your opinion?”
Beyond The First Date…
Once you know what to talk about on a first date, it shouldn’t be difficult for you to make a good impression and make her want to see you again. But now it’s very important for you to know how to “amplify” her interest in you and make her feel attraction. This is how you can “seal the deal” with her and make her your girlfriend.
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