Posted on 30 August 2011.
What To Talk About With Girls – Conversation Tips
Look, when it comes down to getting a girlfriend, one of the greatest challenges that men face is struggling to carry on a conversation.
Let me cut to the chase: if you don’t know how to carry on a cool conversation, you can forget about being awesome with girls. But if your conversation skills are lacking, don’t worry – I can give you a few powerful tactics to help you out, and with some practice, you can become a master of conversing with girls. Don’t worry if you don’t have a natural “gift of gab.”
With consistent effort and practice over time, you can get better results with women than your silver-tongued brethren. Once you develop the core skills that I’m about to explain, you’ll be ready to strike up a conversation with a girl in virtually any situation.
What To Talk About With Girls – Conversation Tips
You always want to give women the sense that you’re an ORIGNAL guy, unllike the last 47 chumps who tried to approach her and failed to interest her. Don’t ask the same predictable questions or use any of the same “lines” that she’s heard from all the other guys. She’ll be thinking to herself: “I wonder what he’s gonna say next?” This keeps her guessing, and wards off the biggest “attraction destroyer” for a woman: Boredom.
You don’t need to talk about deep subjects. In fact, you can keep the conversation light and playful. But it must never be boring. The ability to engage her in a fun conversation, that branches out into unexpected areas, can be the key advantage you have over the other guys…and it’s a surefire way to make her start feeling interested in you.
So let’s jump into it. Here are five of my favorite methods for turbo-charging your conversations with women.
1. Be perceptive, notice details, and be aware of your surroundings
You’ll never “run out of steam” during the conversation, and struggle to figure out what to say next, if you pay attention to the environment you’re in — and the people, places and things around you. . It’s a rare man who actually does this, and it’s a very attractive trait to women. You don’t ever want to her to suspect that you have an agenda, and that you’re TRYING to use lines or routines to trick her into “liking” you. Women have built-in, finely-tuned BS detectors, and if she feels you’re not being truthful with her (or you’re saying something just to get her into bed)… it’s game over, and you’re done.
2. Ask genuine, non-threatening questions
If you’re been studying PUA (Pick Up Artist) routines and language, there’s a good chance that the girl you’re talking to has encountered this stuff before. PUA routines have gone mainstream, and in bars and clubs around the world these routines are being overused. Some of these PUA routines are in fact quite clever (and can be effective) – assuming she hasn’t heard them before. But you must remember that any lines or routines you use must be congruent with your personality and body language. You must project confidence and playfulness. The most clever “pickup routine” in the world will fail miserably if the guy delivering it is fidgeting nervously and can’t maintain eye contact. The best way to set yourself apart from other guys is to ask authentic questions… without an agenda or hidden motive. A woman needs to trust and feel safe around you before she’s willing to spend more time in a conversation.
True “players” don’t rely on canned lines, they have the confidence to express genuine opinions and questions.
3. Listen actively (being a good listener can be even MORE important than knowing what to say next)
Observe the interactions between guys and girls the next time you’re hanging out in a bar or club. You’ll notice that in most cases, the guy does most of the talking — usually in an effort to impress her. But the conversation game isn’t won by being the smoothest talker, or trying to “earn points” by bragging about who you know, the car you drive, the money you make, etc. It’s also about being an attentive listener. Being a great listener might not come naturally to you, especially if you’re an outgoing guy with a good sense of humor, who is used to being the center of attention when you’re hanging out with your buddies. Even if you have to bite your tongue waiting for someone to finish their thought or ideas, do it. People like other people who let them talk, and women will respect and appreciate you more. This also takes some of the burden off of you when you’re conversing with women. Instead of constantly trying to dominate the conversation and talking about yourself, ask her a thought-provoking question (check out the Mack Tactics book to learn some of these, especially the chapter on “Hypotheticals”) and then listen and appreciate what she has to say.
4. Don’t let her see you sweat, keep it light
Women generally worry about small things more than men do. At any given time, you can assume that a girl has at least one thing on her mind that is causing her stress. As long as you can keep her smiling and having fun, so that she forgets about her other worries, you’ll be a guy she wants to hang out with. Big-screen badasses like Clint Eastwood, Sylvester Stallone or John Wayne never looked worried, and were able to handle whatever situations that came up. They also used a dose of humor now and then to show they were firmly in control. (James Bond, no matter which actors was portraying him, is another great example). A woman will follow your social lead, based on how you come across and make her feel. By being cool, calm and relaxed at all times, and using humor (especially when things aren’t going according to plan, such as trying to talk to a girl in a loud, crowded nightclub), you’ll make her feel safe in your presence, and this is one of the prerequisites for making any woman feel attraction.
5. Stay “present” and in the moment
As guys, we think about a lot of things: The idiot that cut us off in traffic… what time tonight’s game starts… or what band is playing this weekend – and we don’t focus on the person or situation right in front of us. We tend to be “up in our head,” or nervous, thinking about what has or might happen – or what an attractive woman might think of us. When this happens, and you allow your own “mental traffic” to distract you, you won’t be focused on the present moment. For women it’s called being “present,” and it’s absolutely HUGE.
A female friend of mine said: “Being present is EVERYTHING.” This means you’re truly engaged in a conversation, contributing and giving genuine feedback. You aren’t nodding like a bobble head doll, or mindlessly saying “uh-huh” or “yeah” every so often. Women aren’t fooled at all when you do this. You’ll appear lazy or apathetic, and she definitely won’t think you’re a badass.
Mastering the art of conversation will yield benefits beyond scoring with women. These skills are also essential for forging business relationships and making progress with your other goals. Everyone loves to be listened to and appreciated, whether it’s a babe you meet at the bar, or the guy sitting across the desk from you, interviewing you for a job.
A final note: while becoming a great conversionalist is an important step towards becoming awesome with women, it’s not the only weapon you need in your arsenal. If you try to learn these skills and attitudes on your own without any guidance, you’re in for a long, ego-bruising journey (like I went through). What you need is a thorough, comprehensive game plan which will help you go from the opening conversation, all the way to a successful seduction. In the long run, improving your overall level of confidence, and your lifestyle, will attract far more women than memorizing a few clever or sneaky “routines” to make a woman drop her guard. I’m sure your goal is to meet QUALITY women — not girls who are easily tricked or deceived into sleeping with you.
Bonus Tips To Help You Get More Women…
Guys who are baffled about the effective ways of getting the girl should best become adept in the skill of dating and picking up girls. Where picking up girls is concerned, the men should keep on practicing the different methods and techniques that pick up artists use to get the job done. The tricky talent for dating needs guys to have the know-how plus the perfect pick up line plus the attitude; all these are required for one guy to become just like the talented pick up artists. How, then, can any guy get the girl?
The first tip in getting the girl occurs even before you spot a girl you like: be well-dressed, thus, fit to be seen. You have to pay attention to your clothes; pick clothes that suit you yet go with the latest fashion trends. You need to consciously dress up wherever you may be going so that you always look well put together. Your clothes should be neat. All these things are a must if you want to attract the attention of the girl you like as first impressions count.
The second step in getting the girl needs you to pay attention to your attitude or way of carrying yourself. For this one, you need to get the message across that you are an authority in the social scene and thus are a man of importance. You have to instill in the observers’ minds that you are an important part of the circle and are a well respected one. So, walk confidently with your head held high, keep your hands relaxed, and keep eye contact with the girl, but don’t act arrogant. These things can help you make the girl give you a second glance.
The third tip in getting the girl, just like the previous two, happens before meeting a girl you like. You have to broaden your network of friends for social proof. This step is critical as it helps a lot in making girls take notice of your worth as a member in the social scene. When a girl sees that you are sociable and that your friends enjoy your company, your “attractiveness points” go up in the girl’s eyes. Thus, make lots of friends and don’t just limit yourself to guys; make friends with lots of girls as well – this tells the girl that you are a loved and valued member of the group.
The last tip in getting the girl may be done during the actual time when you see a girl that catches your eye. You have to choose the fitting and interesting pick up line to make her pay attention to you all the more, if the first three steps have made her look your way already. There are many pick up lines to choose from: sweet, corny, naughty, funny, and a whole lot more! You have to know a few in each category so that you can fit the one that best fits a certain situation or setting. Of course, you must remember to say your chosen pick up line in a confident sort of way.
To cut a long story short, pick up girls and dating need not be a cause of concern for your, or for any other guy, for that matter. There are no magic words that can make a girl be attracted to you. You have to do something to yourself first: dress in a trendy manner; conduct yourself in a confident way; and make many friends. Along with a good pick up line, you just have to be enduring in your efforts to become a certified pick up artist who succeeds in almost all attempts at getting the girl.
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